Long Distance Relationship in College is Beautiful but Cold

LDR has happened a lot in the community, in College, even at work. From school to work. From those who are still dating to who are already married. LDR cannot be avoided, initially before the LDR occurred, usually someone is met by the opposite sex at school, college and while working. At that time they were given the favor of love to the opposite sex by God. After that they make a promise, then who knows the fate of people that they must be separated by distance, space and time. Until finally there was a term for those who experienced it, namely LDR (Long Distance Relationship). The LDR in College is indeed not easy, it can interfere with the concentration of learning on College, it can interfere with the tasks that exist on College, or it can even interfere with the way of thinking of someone. But the problem can be solved effectively.

LDR at the College has many effects for students, getting the material becomes unfocused. When we lack material, of course we will have difficulty learning something new. Carrying out tasks becomes not serious, this can cause our grades to be less satisfying, even socializing with friends and the environment becomes less, as a result our social networks become less extensive.

Another problematic of LDR is our habit of always prioritizing what is not clearly visible is near us, we are always relied on by Mobile phone. The quality of our Worship also declines. Usually We can say this like "BUCIN (Budak Cinta)". Yes, everyone know we all love the person who is our partner. But when we live in religion and society, we must prioritize what is clearly near us.

Despite these problems, the bad problems of LDR can be fought. We can make a weekly plans, it does not mean taking time for him is not allowed, it's just that we need to make a structured weekly plans, so that everything goes according to what we want. Weekly plans can manage our time with her/him, even if only via cellphone. We can write this weekly plan on paper or note then put it in our room, or we can make it on a cellphone note, so that it can always be seen by our faces.

Another approach to the problem of LDR is we must be aware of our conscience, we are created by God Almighty to worship him, do not let BUCIN make us forget the existence of our Lord. In addition, we must also realize that we were created to know each other; BUCIN should not make us focus on the far away.

There are some facts about LDR, the couples of LDR is not necessarily happy if live close. A study in 2014 from the Department of Pshychology, Queen University, Canada, tested more than 700 couples of LDR and 400 couples non-LDR. As a result, they did not find many significant differences between the two types of relationship. The couples of LDR is not necessarily happy although live close with their couples.

In conclusion, problems about LDR cannot be immediately resolved. If we hold the LDR promise with our partners, we must commit. But don't overcommit; this will disrupt our lives in the community and in college.

Reference :

https://pijarpsikologi.org/sebuah-dukungan-untuk-pejuang-ldr-long-distance-relationship/

https://kumparan.com/millennial/3-fakta-soal-ldr-dari-beberapa-penelitian/full